I posted a quote a while ago, but I never wrote down my thoughts about it. A recent discussion with a friend got me thinking about it again. Here it is:
“Silences make the real conversations between friends. Not the saying but the never needing to say is what counts.”
I hate the feeling of needing to say something to fill the silences. Why can’t we just accept that not every silence needs to be filled? Fear, that’s why. We know it’s more comfortable for both people if the silences are present, but we are too afraid to let it be. We are too afraid the silences will come with feelings of awkwardness and discomfort. But it’s far more special when a pair of friends can sit comfortably and enjoy each other’s presence without scrambling through their thoughts to keep the conversation going. That’s when you’ve reached a point in your relationship with that person during which you don’t feel the need to constantly have to please him or her because you know that person will still have a good time just being with you. Let’s face it – our lives are not that interesting. Sometimes there is simply nothing more to be said, and it’s better off to welcome the silence and not fill it with meaningless crap. A comfortable friendship is a wonderful thing that can only be achieved if both people are mature enough to embrace the silence.